Something has led you to search online for every possible reason why the man in your life doesn’t want to commit.
I don’t know how long you’ve been watching it. It may have been a few months, maybe a few years, but one thing is for sure. There has to be something he’s doing or saying or (not doing or saying) that makes you think he doesn’t want to commit.
At this point I am not sure what commitment means to you because I am not familiar with your individual situation.
The real questions you may be asking yourself are: why doesn’t he want a relationship or why doesn’t he propose to me or why doesn’t he marry me or any other question that means more commitment to you from the man in your life.
And you clearly want answers.
We, as women, are very good at dreaming up reasons or justifications, as I like to call it, for why a man doesn’t want to commit. The truth is that we are very good at inventing them, either using a reason that we have heard you use before, or rather by convincing ourselves.
Most of the time, we know full well that we don’t think that’s the real reason. In fact, we think it’s silly and a half, but we try to convince ourselves that it must be so!
Sometimes we call our girlfriends and talk to them to death about the situation, asking their opinion on the situation as if their opinion matters a lot in the grand scheme of things. This has nothing to do with them at all. All that matters is YOUR opinion about the situation and what you plan to do about it.
Sometimes we think that the time is not yet right and that when such and such happens, he will… (insert any action that signifies commitment to you here). When the “so and so” passes and he still hasn’t done what you convinced yourself he was going to do, you’re in the same boat, nothing has changed and you keep asking yourself the question “why doesn’t he want to commit?”
Or even worse, a man will sometimes say after you’ve pushed him on something that means a lot to you, “yeah, okay, we’re going to… (insert whatever you want me to do here) by the end of 2012” to example. March 2013 and it hasn’t happened, you may still be wondering why he doesn’t want to seal the deal and commit.
Now you will NOT want to be in this situation again. Avoid at all costs.
Frankly, I think we spend too much time on this because I think there are only 2 reasons why a man would be slow to commit to a woman he’s dating.
So what are your reasons for not wanting to commit?
Are here:
1. You don’t want to commit at all. If you’re a normal, healthy, confident person, you only do the things you WANT to do. I can tell you that NO ONE is forcing me to do something I don’t want to do. No matter what reason I can think of for not wanting to do the thing, whatever it is, the bottom line is that I DON’T WANT to do it, so I won’t. End of story.
To get me to do it, something has to happen that inspires me to do it, that makes me want to do it. I suspect that the man in your life is exactly the same. Hell, YOU are the same too, I bet. People do what they want to do. Done.
2. He doesn’t want to commit to you. Very similar to him who doesn’t want to commit at all is him who doesn’t want to commit to you. I don’t know the dynamics of your relationship, but one of the truths he has to face is that he may not want to commit to YOU. Once again, it doesn’t matter what reasons he may have for it. That’s not the point.
Just make sure you never lose sight of the big picture. I have talked to many men about this just to get their opinion and they ALL said the same thing, they KNOW from the beginning, certainly by the end of the year, if they want to “commit” to a woman long term or not. They know.
As far as I’m concerned, these are the only two reasons you should keep in mind when trying to answer the question of why he doesn’t want to commit or do whatever else you want him to do. . You can’t force anyone to do anything no matter how hard you try.
You cannot force a man to want to commit or commit to you specifically. And let’s say you did force the issue, why would you want a commitment knowing that he didn’t really want to commit to you in the first place?
No, there has to be a better way to get what YOU want and there is! You just have to know what works best in these circumstances! Know what works best and you’ll have the engagement you want in no time!