Is she addicted to sex toys? Does he prefer “alone time” over time with you? What does it mean when your girlfriend, wife, or lover seems to value alone time more than sex?
Do any of these questions sound familiar? If you’re like the millions of men who worry about their ability to satisfy their partner in the sack, the truth is that a woman who enjoys sexual “accessories,” especially in her alone time, can be a very intimidating thing.
Why? Because for many men, it indicates that they may NOT be doing it right, and that her woman is literally taking her sexual satisfaction into her own hands.
Is it possible for a woman to become “addicted” to sex toys?
The truth is that, like any other pleasant behavior that can become obsessive, or compulsive, it is.
The good news?
It’s rare, and a woman who actually compulsively uses any kind of self-pleasure instrument in a hyperactive way is usually NOT doing it just for orgasm or sexual sensations. It is usually a sign of hypercompulsive sexual desire and often other, deeper, unrelated psychological issues.
The bad news?
The REAL problem men are concerned about is genuine. Many women resort to masturbation, whether through the use of a “toy” or otherwise, simply because they cannot climax during sex.
The reasons why women report that they are NOT able to orgasm with their partner during sex?
In a highly publicized sex survey conducted in late 2012, the top reasons women privately reported that they preferred a sex toy like a vibrator INSTEAD of partnered sex were as follows.
1 – Her male partners climaxed too quickly. It’s no surprise that sexual stamina and staying power remain women’s #1 complaints about bad sex.
2 – His partners were “doing it wrong”. Believe it or not, especially with men UNDER 30, lack of sexual ability is one of the most common reasons a woman is unable to orgasm and ultimately resorts to using an aid like a vibrator. later, in private. (often when our man has fallen asleep, or the next morning when he has left)
3 – Bad compatibility of “body parts”. Many men are simply not adequately endowed to satisfy their partners during sex. The truth is that around 80% of women have difficulty reaching orgasm due to size or stamina issues with their current partners. They aren’t able to get to the right places…and even if they are, they can’t last long enough to bring her to orgasm.
Many women are simply not willing to compromise on the “climax” part of the sexual experience any longer, and will resort to making sure they get their own release, often on our own!
Finally, sex toys WORK! With so much myth and misinformation surrounding the female orgasm, the truth is that over 90% of women report being able to orgasm each and every time they use a sex toy or accessory.
Compare this to the abysmally bad rates that women report being able to climax during “real” sex, it’s not a huge surprise that so many of us now seem “addicted” to our erotic helpers and prefer more “alone” time than what we let you know.