If you’ve ever been shot down by someone, your self-confidence can plummet faster than a runaway airplane. It is possible to regain your self-confidence, but you must do some ‘inside’ work. How did you attract someone who treated you badly? How do you really feel about yourself? Do you think you deserve love and respect? Asking yourself these and other questions will help you get to the “root” cause of why you would allow someone to treat you badly. Once you do the ‘inside’ work, you can start to regain your self-confidence.
How to Regain Your Self Confidence After Being Knocked Down
Diary of your feelings. Not facing your feelings is worse than facing them. Instead of dealing with your feelings, you can gorge them on drugs, alcohol, food, gambling, food, and other addictions. Buy a couple of journals and write until you can’t write anymore. Get all your feelings out of your system. When you’re ready, take a deep breath and read what you wrote. It will be cathartic and painful at the same time, but at least you will face your feelings and be able to heal yourself.
Realizing that most people are insecure. Anyone who has the need to tear you or another person down has major self-esteem issues. Send a lot of love to that person who destroyed you and move on with your life. Forgive them because they didn’t know what they were doing. Forgiveness does not mean exonerating the person for treating you badly, it means that you free yourself from the person and the situation.
Do the mirror exercise.. Every day look in the mirror and say, “I love you.” The more you say this, the more your self-confidence will return.
Sign up for a martial arts class.. He will not only lose weight and tone his body, but also regain his self-confidence. Martial arts classes are great for learning discipline. You will find your inner strength and you will begin to honor yourself more. The more you honor yourself, the less likely someone else will tear you down. You will also learn about trust, loyalty and honor.
Hire a counselor and life coach. A counselor can help you analyze and get to the root of the problem of why someone brought you down. As a step? How confident were you as a person? When did your self-confidence decrease? How old were you? You will be asked to go within to find the answers. Most likely, he still has some problems to solve from his childhood. Most people do.
Hiring a life coach along with a counselor is a great way to move your life forward. A counselor is usually about the past, while a life coach is about the present/future. They can work with you to help you regain your self-confidence by providing solid information that will stay with you for the rest of your life. Make sure you find a coach who goes beyond just giving you homework to do. This isn’t coaching, this is babysitting. You want a coach who will really work with you and hold you accountable. If you don’t do the work, you won’t get your self-confidence back. You want a life coach who is waiting for you to regain your self-confidence. They will give you the tools, but it is up to you if you use them or not.
Enroll in a self-affirmation or self-defense class. This is a great way to learn to assert yourself and protect yourself. You will learn that ‘shadow’ dancing with someone is not an option. You will know how to handle someone who could potentially bring you down. You will be able to recognize signs such as aggression, arrogance, passive/aggressive behavior and other signs. You will not allow people to walk all over you. You will show them who is the boss in your life and you will not attract them into your life anymore!
Learning how to take down someone who is trying to hurt you will boost your self-confidence. You will save your life in more ways than one. You will assert yourself and be able to get out of danger at the same time.
Enroll in a public speaking class. Most people are terrified of public speaking, they would rather face death! Public speaking is a great way to rebuild confidence. If you can speak to 50 or more people while staying calm, collected, and collective, you’ll not only regain your self-confidence, but you’ll gain the respect of your fellow speakers.
No one has the right to knock another person down. If you allow this to happen, it means you don’t honor or respect yourself. Find out why this is happening and get help to change it. Also, anyone who takes down another person could use some help! Remember that everyone is important and no one is an ‘extra’ on planet earth. Let no one mistreat you and recover your power once and for all!