One of the biggest problems men have when dating women is the existence or appearance of the dreaded friend. This is a very difficult subject because as guys no one knows guys better than we do and we know for a fact that there is no such thing as a “boy friend”. Any man who wants to be friends with your girlfriend has an agenda, either he wants to sleep with her now or keep her in the background to try to sleep with her later or he wants to use her as bait so she can introduce him to other girls. This article is designed to give you some tips on how to get rid of your girlfriend’s friend.
Be the alpha male.
The last thing you want to do is start a fight with your friend, girls hate guys like that. However, you can easily become the alpha male and win the mental war without having to fight a physical battle. You should preferably start from day one, meeting the number one, or as soon as possible if this guy is in your life right now, beating the alpha male. Make eye contact with him, be short and serious when you talk to him, be nice but don’t be friends with him. If your girlfriend isn’t around her, be as cold as possible to her friends. Never make plans to go out with him. You want to mentally let him know that he is aware of his games and that it is not worth your while spending your time in his territory.
Be nice to her friends.
Women value their independence, and one of the first subconscious arguments they’ll make when considering getting rid of their friend is that by doing so they’re giving up their independence and any sense of an independent life without you. You need to completely defuse this argument by encouraging an independent life that allows her to leave her friend completely and still feel like she’s in control. One of the best ways to do this is to be nice to her friends and foster those relationships. If you’re nice to her friends, it will pay dividends like no other.
While women are talking about you, their friends will always support you, even if there is an argument. You want to encourage activities where she can have fun independently with her friends, but avoid things like girls’ nights out at bars where she’ll be in front of you and can’t control the appearance of her legendary friend. Offer to pay her and her friends to get their nails done on a Sunday morning. I guarantee that her friend won’t be at the beauty salon on a Sunday morning and you’ll walk out smelling like a rose.
Get her out of that guy’s social circle.
You want to make a conscious and covert effort to remove your girlfriend from the social circle to which the so-called friend belongs. If you’re all going out to the bars on a Friday night, try to learn about this ahead of time and plan a romantic dinner just for the two of you away from where your friend will be hanging out. On things like her birthday, take her out of town or encourage events with her friends who are just girls like them who go to the salon together. If the friend is somewhat confident, she is going to fight and try to bring your girlfriend back to her world, you should give her as many better alternatives as possible so she won’t be tempted to hang out with the friend. .
If all else fails, leave her.
The sad news is that some women are just addicted to the attention they get from other men and no matter how great their boyfriend is, they refuse to be friendless. There needs to come a point in her relationship fairly quickly (in most cases at the two month mark) where, if she doesn’t start to show signs of pulling away from her friends, you should get away from her. Trust me, you don’t want to be in a long term relationship with a girl who has a ton of friends and you certainly don’t want your wife hanging out with other guys all the time. There are many things that men have to do when dating women who are unbalanced, we have to ask women out, we have to pay for dates, we have to protect them; it’s perfectly fair that after a reasonable amount of time you need your friends to be on their way. If you’ve tried all of the above tactics and she still has these friends waiting in the wings, it may be time to look for a better girlfriend.