Generosity is about giving freely and out of love. We are sometimes abused for this trait, but the important thing is that we treat others with respect and kindness. This is all that matters!
However, if there is something that I would like to change in my life, it is my excess of generosity. My generosity is not just limited to my family, but also extends to others who need my help. I’m very sensitive. People don’t have to tell me their problems, I can feel them immediately. There and then, I will offer my help without being asked.
Give because you want to give, not because you expect others to change their behavior. I always support my sister even if she is ungrateful to me. I want to help her be a better person, but I end up frustrated because she doesn’t appreciate the people who are always there for her no matter what happens to her: her family. The problem with being too generous with money is that others can become too dependent on you.
Most of the time, I wonder, what’s the use of holding her up if she can’t stand on her own feet? She is just becoming a parasite instead of becoming a productive person who has self-respect. I want her to have a good life, but she’s not helping herself become one. Sometimes I am really fed up with all her complaining about her life, especially when it comes to money matters, doing nothing to realize what her heart desires. She just wants to ask her family for financial help.
Too much support from her family affects her self-sufficiency, which is a problem. Not only does she suffer financially if I stop helping her, but she is also denied her full potential.
While giving can feel good, it can also create discomfort if we repeatedly go to the extreme of giving. Being too generous is not good, especially when we are inclined to give all we are capable of giving. We do not have to please others by putting their needs first and neglecting our own. We should not be afraid if we let others down sometimes.
We have to think of ourselves first. This not only applies to family members but also to friends. When we are in the habit of rescuing our friends from shame, at a certain point it becomes unbearable and unfair. Money is not the only problem; It’s your unappreciated kindness. So why prolong the agony? Explain to him that you appreciate his friendship, but you just can’t keep it anymore.
Being overly generous can also mean freely giving of your time, skills, and resources. A healthy dose of volunteering is good for everyone. If you’re retired and really enjoy it, there’s nothing wrong with it. But for a single mom like me, it’s just too unfair!