There are no good or bad emotions, what makes them good or bad is the way they are used. That is especially true in the case of anger. Anger can save your life in times of crisis, but if left unchecked, it can also bring a world of misery.
Anger usually occurs when a person does not feel in full control or overwhelmed by a condition or situation. The feeling of anger is activated in an effort to summon personal resources that would not otherwise be available. In other words, anger is generated by a feeling of helplessness and not by a feeling of strength. Unfortunately, this is not how it is sometimes perceived.
In some circles, the propensity to get angry is seen as a sign of character, strength, and power. Could not be farther from the truth. Strong people are not prone to anger. They are not prone to anger because they are rarely in conditions where they look vulnerable, so there is no need to get angry.
It should also be noted that anger robs a person of much of the ability to think clearly and rationally. It is also well known that the more angry a person becomes, the more irrational his behavior will be.
Most mature people will see anger as a sign of personal weakness, so they will try to avoid it at all costs.
It is true that the emotion of anger has its place. In cases of physical aggression, anger will monopolize brute force that would not otherwise be available. As previously stated, there is no such thing as bad emotions, even anger has its time and place.
When I was much younger I used to have a problem with anger. And the worst part is that he used to pride me on the fact that he could lose his temper at the slightest provocation. I felt it was a way to gain respect as people around me were constantly walking on eggs and afraid they might blow me up.
Luckily, I started reading biographies and started emulating my heroes. It was then that I realized that the smartest and brightest among us were not prone to violence or anger. That was an epiphany for me. So I knew I had to change.
The way I changed was by associating a deep disgust for the lack of personal control and a lot of admiration for self-control. Almost overnight I changed. I can’t remember the last time I got angry and I feel so much better and much more dignified for it…and also much more effective in “sensitive” situations.