Happy relationships do not go hand in hand with an unfaithful partner. Usually I am the first to tell someone to leave someone who cheats on them. That’s the only logical thing to do, right? But ending a relationship on such a bitter note would mean forcing yourself to move on when you know you can’t. You won’t be able to quickly get over the pain your cheating partner caused you, and it will take a long time for your heart to heal.
I think “Once a cheater, always a cheater” is a general statement that does NOT apply to many people. Many people have an affair because something was missing in their relationships and not because they don’t love their partner.
Having an affair is just one symptom of a deeper problem. The affair may have occurred due to the lack of intimacy in the relationship, or due to the many fights that have been going on lately between the two. Solve the core problem of the problem and the symptom (cheat) will go away.
It’s not easy to seek forgiveness after an affair, and it’s even harder to forgive someone who cheated on you. But if both parties are willing to commit to restoring trust in the relationship, I think everyone deserves a second chance. We were never taught in school how to handle matters of the heart … and we all make mistakes in life. The main thing is to learn from it and not repeat it again. Just like when testing gold through fire, a strong relationship is something that will only be possible if the two of you go through stormy times together.
If you were the one who cheated on your partner, then it is very likely that your ex no longer wants to have anything to do with you. Please understand that your ex needs some time to get over the pain, so give him time.
However, if you were the one who was cheated on, I really feel your pain. You’re probably wondering why your partner had to do something like that to you. You could also be in shock and denying the whole situation.
Whatever your situation, trust is gone from the relationship. Trust is one of the main ingredients of a strong relationship, and if you want to restore it, it’s important to start adjusting your attitude and actions.
If you were the one who cheated, you had an attitude that allowed you to deviate. Work on changing that before anything else. What were you looking for when you got lost? Did you feel neglected and just needed someone to give you more attention?
The truth is, no one would have had an affair if the relationship was perfect. Do an examination of your conscience and try to find out what led to the situation, and then work to fix the relationship. If the love is still there between the two of you, I honestly don’t see a reason not to try to give the relationship another chance. If trust is missing, work to restore trust. Since Rome wasn’t built in a day, neither will trust be restored with a snap of the fingers.
The crux of restoring trust in relationships is not talking about all the right things, but doing the right things. Things like keeping your promises and constantly reassuring your partner that things are different now than they were in the past.
Just remember that if you were the one who cheated, then prepare to face it. You will be the recipient of the many comments made about your breach of trust, but remember that it is not easy for someone to forgive you for cheating. How would you feel if you were the one who found out that your partner is cheating on you? Put yourself in your partner’s shoes and be understanding.
Remember that restoring trust in a relationship takes time. With a commitment to change for the better, your relationship CAN be saved.