Some of the shows on ABC “The Bachelor” and ABC “The Bachelorette” appear to be acceptable curriculum material for a psychology class teaching personality disorders. Whether it’s Ashley Ebert’s encounter on ABC’s 2011 “The Bachelorette” or 2012 ABC’s “The Bachelor” where Jake Flajnik met his significant other, viewers are getting insights into what a narcissistic emotional abuser is. .
A contestant who made a statement on the 2011 season of “The Bachelorette” as “I’d rather swim in a pool full of piss than…” behind the back of the woman he was competing with for attention. be easily identified as cold and insensitive. Many other descriptors are certainly applicable.
There is no difference compared to the 2012 season with Ben Flajnik when one of the contestants on national television refers to a fellow contestant as a stripper and home wrecker without any evidence to support the claim. This same contestant exhibited cold, callous demeanor rather than empathy when making comments like “Who’s got the rose?” or in a different situation, “How did that taste come out of your mouth?”
Is the excuse of not receiving a manual on how to react or respond in a highly emotional situation acceptable? Season after season, faithful watchers of ABC’s “The Bachelor” and “The Bachelorette” have seen dozens of highly stressed and emotional contestants without these contestants displaying cold and insensitive behavior.
Statistically, if the prevalence rate of narcissistic personality disorder is 4%, or one in twenty-five, is it mathematically correct to say that every season we might suspect that there is a contestant exhibiting narcissistic symptoms and therefore might become a a narcissistic emotional abuser?
It seems that both of the ABC shows mentioned above have hit the mark. The drama created by narcissistic personality disorder is entertaining if that is the kind of entertainment the viewer is looking for.
However, is this safe for “The Bachelorette” or “The Bachelor?” In case the narcissist is chosen and when negotiations and compromises within healthy relationships are required, what happens then?
The same poison of coldness and callousness of heart that took place behind the back of “The Bachelorette” and “The Bachelor” will be hit head-on by the unexpected. The dangerous twist is how calculated and calibrated the narcissist is with his coldness and callousness.
“The Bachelorette” and “The Bachelor” will no longer be confused by wondering who they should believe when others inform them of the narcissist’s behaviors. They will now be confused firsthand by the conflicting messages given by the narcissist in everyday life.
One moment the unexpected will be carried to the heights of emotional bliss and the next moment it will be plunged into the depths of human pain. If “The Bachelorette” or “The Bachelor” have increased financial success in their lives, there will be a game in that realm as well.
Viewers of ABC’s “The Bachelorette” and “The Bachelor” are being entertained. They are also being educated on the behaviors of a narcissistic emotional abuser.
Right before the eyes of the viewer and the contestant the games of a narcissistic emotional abuser are being played. The narcissist’s behaviors are nonsense, leaving everyone with negative feelings of disbelief and anxiety in their stomachs.
As a viewer of ABC’s “The Bachelor” or “The Bachelorette,” would you rather be entertained with or without being educated about what a narcissistic emotional abuser is?
If you choose to be entertained without the drama and emotional pain created by narcissistic emotional abusers, perhaps a simple psychological test that identifies people with personality disorders could be implemented in the selection process for future contestants on ABC’s “The Bachelor.” and “The Bachelorette.”
So you could experience positive emotions while enjoying watching the love feelings between two human beings evolve. Positive feelings that come with the hope that two humans have found lasting love.
After all, isn’t that why you choose to watch a show titled “The Bachelor” or “The Bachelorette”?