Script
Everyone would love that ‘girl next door’ scenario where you can sneak next door whenever you want with a pretty hot hot woman. You have a little fun; You head home just after midnight.
Wherever you live, if there’s an opportunity to seduce a neighbor, take it! For you young people, you have the best opportunities when you are in your student accommodation. You share the same corridor with 100 other girls!
You older boys don’t walk right past your door every day, but I’m sure there’s one on your street you can’t help but take a second look at.
Picking up your neighbor is a warm approach in some respects; You already have something in common, you share the same street name. It’s polite to meet your neighbors, so she should be more open to starting that initial conversation than a girl in a bar.
The challenge
However,
Don’t think this is going to be a walk; she already knows more about you than you think. She saw you changing across the room last week and she thinks you shifted around the waist a bit. She also saw you wear those hideous underpants when you were taking out the trash late at night. I’m sure the list goes on.
Also, if you mess things up, you’ll be the talk of the street and watching her suddenly becomes a very awkward occurrence. There goes your invitation to the round of summer street barbecue at number four.
How to get it
If you get it, then everything becomes ideal. It’s worth the risk of pursuing her just because if you do, you have a potential girl for Sunday nights, a potential partner, and potentially a joint mortgage. And the reality is, worst case scenario, you make another friendly neighbor (which means an invite to the house party in the summer, where you’ll meet all of her cute friends). She would rather avoid being nasty to you since she has to live next to you for many years.
Start by being the friendly neighbor living the cool life. The polite thing to do is introduce yourself to new people on the street. Not enough people do it, so no one really gets to know the people they live with today.
Keep the conversation brief and close it after five to ten minutes of conversation. You don’t want to be dragged into the conversations of ‘what colors to paint each room’ and ‘how close are the local stores’. That’s just a standard conversation the other neighbors would have had with her earlier that day.
Tell her that she loves meeting new neighbors and that she should visit her one night for a bit and get to know each other. The thing to remember is that when people are new to an area/place/country/company, they are always much more open to meeting people. Then she’ll be more than happy to come and she’ll be glad you offered!
Many times I have approached girls who have moved to Bristol for work/lifestyle and don’t know anyone yet so they didn’t require much screening to get numbers because in fact they are more eager than you. to meet new people!
Climbing
Plan for him to come one night, preferably on the weekend so he doesn’t have work the next day. Build a fire (or if you don’t have one, make it cozy) and grab a bottle of red wine.
Skip the boring homebuyer talk and talk in a fun way about your and her life, background, hobbies, etc. Slowly but surely move on to dating/relationship stuff so she feels comfortable sharing personal information with you. But draw the line with this; don’t start advising her about her love life because then you become the best gay friend.
Make sure you leave lots of little indicators that you see her in a different way than ‘just friends’ by saying things like ‘wow, you’re smart and cute at the same time!’
Remember to stick to the push and pull theory; Always follow up declarations of interest with a challenging question, teaser, or disqualifier.
The key point in picking up your neighbor is to let him know your intentions at some point. Your attempt to get her can be seen by her as if you are a good neighbor.
So initiate physical contact, poke her, poke her when she says something silly, and tickle her when she deserves it. Make sure you’re the one calling the night time, but say how much fun it’s been and that it’s actually cooler than you originally expected.
Plan to do something again, but make sure it’s something off your street. If she’s new to the area/city, then you can show her something really cool and unique about your hometown.
Always suggest your house to meet. Never suggest your home, because we use it as a great statement of interest. When he offers to get closer to his, that’s when you know you can go for the close.
Take her with you on the town (and a few friends if it’s more comfortable), but don’t drink ridiculous amounts; you want to go home in a good state. I suggest you come back because you have this great movie that you rented at Blockbuster the other day and you haven’t seen it yet.
Go back to yours (make sure you go to your house) and sit her on the couch. Before playing the movie, she asks “do you want to kiss me?”. (Close Kiss Mystery). If she says yes or maybe, she do it. Only if she says ‘no’ do you respond by saying I didn’t say you couldn’t, it sounds like you had something on your mind. She continue straight to paste the film.
the perfect date
You’ve been to a few! My personal favorite is on the couch, a bottle of wine, and a movie because women open up more when it’s just you and them.
If the mood is right, they will begin to feel very comfortable in his presence, but to achieve this, even the smallest things count, such as lighting, heat, music, etc.
You need to get her out of the house and into a different place with her, though otherwise you’ll be ‘just a neighbor’. A Saturday night at a good wine bar is a good option, but come back at 11pm for a movie.
keeping it
Enjoy living independently for now; they live 10 meters away, so there is no need to make dramatic life changes to be with her.
Keep the relationship as it is as long as you enjoy it this way. Just like you, she will enjoy having her own home and living just a few yards from you.
Let her come to your house more than you go to hers; It’s not a specialty, but it’s a statement of authority. Introduce her to your friends and encourage yourself to meet her.
Recommended Routines
ioi – “I guess you’re not just a pretty face… I like smart girls!” If you say this, he’ll get what’s on your mind. From his reaction, you can judge whether you have already done enough or whether you have not achieved attraction yet.
Near – “I have this cool movie that I want to watch at home, we are going to cook some pasta and watch it, but I leave at 2 am because I have a busy day tomorrow.” This is inviting her back into yours, but ending it so she doesn’t feel pressured and knows when it’s her exit point.